{"id":1039,"date":"2025-07-22T16:10:17","date_gmt":"2025-07-22T16:10:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/evenwiser.com\/?p=1039"},"modified":"2025-08-27T16:51:43","modified_gmt":"2025-08-27T16:51:43","slug":"there-are-no-ideal-situations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evenwiser.com\/en\/there-are-no-ideal-situations\/","title":{"rendered":"There are no ideal situations."},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes we think:\u00a0if I had more time<\/em>, I could do this better\u2026 If I had more money, I could have that, if this situation or this person changed, things would be better\u2026<\/p>\n

I often recall a friend's story: When she was single, she really wanted a boyfriend because then she would be happy and content. After a while, she started dating... But that wasn't enough; she would have been truly happy once she was married! And indeed, a few years later, that's what happened! We'd expect her to be satisfied by now, but no, what she really needed was to be able to have a child. And so, after a while, she became a mother... but strangely enough, something still wasn't right... She really wanted a second child! And as if that weren't enough, she became a mother for the second time...<\/p>\n

The story continues to this day\u2026 there\u2019s always something missing.<\/p>\n

There is always something that\u00a0us<\/em>\u00a0lack.<\/p>\n

If there is a wonderful side to this, the infinite desire to want more, there is also a dangerous side: that this desire devours us.<\/p>\n

We are consumed when we feel permanently frustrated by what we cannot do. When we relentlessly seek what we lack. When the present is sacrificed for the sake of a better future.<\/p>\n

How can I love my house if the living room could be bigger? Or love my living room if I don't have a garden? Or love my garden if I don't have a vacation home?<\/p>\n

If I had more time, if I had more money, if I had more conditions...<\/p>\n

This is how we are consumed: When we have time, we lack patience. When we have patience, we lack novelty. When we have novelty, we lack stability. When we have stability, we lack time. When we have time, we lack patience...<\/p>\n

If I only notice what I lack, I will never have enough.<\/h3>\n

We need to become aware of this never-ending dynamic and reposition ourselves.<\/p>\n

Choose another point of view, using a simple antidote: gratitude.<\/p>\n

Notice what I have, not what I lack, and be grateful for what I have been given.<\/p>\n

When was the last time I was grateful for the wonderful things I have? Just the fact that I can read (even nonsense like this article), or have moving fingers that can scroll up and down this screen\u2026<\/p>\n

Have I been thankful for my health? Or the food I have? Or my family? Or my friends, or my job?<\/p>\n

This isn't about disguising reality. If I look at what I have to be thankful for, I'll always have more.<\/p>\n

A grateful heart is a satisfied heart.<\/h3>\n

This doesn't solve life's problems, but it gives us a freer outlook.<\/p>\n

In life, there are no ideal situations. Or if there are, they pass quickly.<\/p>\n

Launching a project will always be a mess. Creating new work will always be challenging. Even a vacation on some paradise beach will always have something missing...<\/p>\n

It's better to enjoy what we have. Do the best we can with what we have before us, without complaining or worrying.<\/p>\n

Let's use our lack of time, money, or motivation to focus on what's truly important. What will I dedicate myself to? What is essential in my life? And with whom will I do it?<\/p>\n

If I only had one week left to live, how would I live it?<\/p>\n

Angry that I didn't meet all my demands or grateful for all that I can be and do?<\/p>\n

It's not worth living in the present while waiting for a better future.<\/h3>\n

Living maturely means knowing how to live with unresolved problems. It's living with difficulties and building something beautiful despite them.<\/p>\n

We can't have the money, the time, the friends, the family, the children, the rest, etc... There may be time for everything, but each thing in its own time.<\/p>\n

E agora, o \u00fanico tempo que temos \u00e9 mesmo este. Por muito imperfeito, desafiante ou cansativo que seja, \u00e9 o \u00fanico tempo que existe.<\/p>\n

Let's make the most of it.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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